So here we are! Ex-wife has been contacted and knows i'm going to meet the children, I am TERRIFIED, my wonderful boyfriend as usual is cool as a cucumber.
At this point I'm having a hard time not using names so i'm going to name us all for fun!
Me- Zoe
Boyfriend- Max
Oldest daughter- Lilly
Youngest daughter- Violet
My dog (now our family dog)- Mia
We sat down and discussed how we should do the introduction, should it be just a few hours? bowling? movies? hiking? so many options! We decided it was best to just do a few hours Saturday, and then not see each other Sunday, let them digest and see how they feel.
I googled around and found a cute theme park nearby that has a lot of rides for small kids, he loved it! So it was set, he bought our tickets online and I was packing a picnic lunch and snacks.
I met a girlfriend for dinner Friday night to keep my nerves calm while he spent the day with the kids, and told them about meeting me. I was in full blown panic by my second drink! What was I doing?! Kids?! Dear god I didn't ask him how he was introducing me....am I his girlfriend? a friend? what if they hate all the food I packed?! SHIT.
I googled around and found a cute theme park nearby that has a lot of rides for small kids, he loved it! So it was set, he bought our tickets online and I was packing a picnic lunch and snacks.
I met a girlfriend for dinner Friday night to keep my nerves calm while he spent the day with the kids, and told them about meeting me. I was in full blown panic by my second drink! What was I doing?! Kids?! Dear god I didn't ask him how he was introducing me....am I his girlfriend? a friend? what if they hate all the food I packed?! SHIT.
Luckily I have amazing friends who understand I'm a walking panic attack when I don't have everything planned and at the ready...a few drinks, and some warm carbs and I was going to fake it till I made it!
We decided to have him bring the girls to my place, meet me and the dog (in case I failed to mention I have the cutest dog ever for her privacy I named her Mia lol) and then ride together to the park. So I woke up early, packed the cooler and per usual I was ready 1.5 hours before I needed to be. I sat on my couch and went through the motions "hi I'm Zoe" or how about "hello girls my name is Zoe, I've heard so much about you!"
Meeting them needn't be that thought out...they're kids, it was simple. "Hi" that's all it took, off to the races! They were SO much prettier in person, and so polite! Max introduced me as Miss Zoe and from that moment on it was get to know me questions, music, and laughing.
The youngest daughter who will from now on be known as Violet took to me first, 10 minutes into being at the park, she was holding my hand asking me every question a 4 year old can muster in her cute little brain. By 20 minutes into the park Violet, and the oldest daughter now known as Lilly were fighting over who would sit with me on the rides. It was truly about as easy a day as I could think of...we all just seemed to fit together.
All in all it went amazing for a first meeting, and the girls we're so happy with me as a new addition that they invited me over on the ride home for the following day. I politely declined and told them it was amazing to meet them, but I wanted to make sure they spent enough time with their dad. They seemed happy with that answer, until my phone rang Sunday morning.
Lilly and Violet we're on my phone asking me to join them for lunch! "we really want you to come over, dad says its okay" I was about to learn quickly they are persistent, honest to a fault, and loving little people.
So that was it...I had lunch with them Sunday and from that weekend on, we became a unit. If I wasn't there by Saturday afternoon every weekend they would ask Max to call me. That was the start of my new family.
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