Why step mother and not just mom?

I decided to start this blog as I find myself in the predicament of being a parent without technically being a mom...wait what?

Lets do a quick recap, and introduction to get you all caught up:

I'm a woman in her late 20's living in New England, I work for an amazing nonprofit company, and generally I love my life. I don't even remotely think I have my shit together, but I'm proud to say I'm a work in progress striving to be a better person everyday.

Somewhere in my mid 20's I would say around 24, I found myself making the decision that I didn't want children of my own. Disclaimer: I love children, I come from a very large loving family, but I found I didn't quite have that burning desire to be a mom. For one reason or another that makes women roll their eyes... sound familiar to anyone out there?

"You're too young to make that decision, talk to me in 5 years!"

"Awe that's cute! You think you have a choice?! It's going to happen with or without your permission! I got pregnant on birth control"

"When you meet the right man that'll change!"  

I know most women give these exclamations thinking its helpful, and have these conversations because they're moms themselves trying to share their wisdom. Either way its infuriating, and a daily struggle for me to defend myself.

If I ever got pregnant well it is what it is! I'll be the best mom I can, and take care of my child and love it. That being said, I'm doing everything I can to prevent that from being a possibility, I DON'T feel I need a child of my own to be complete. I support every woman who is a mom, all I ask is that I get the same respect with my life choices as I give you.

(steps off soap box) End rant moving on!

I was in a relationship with a man for the better part of a decade who also didn't want children, the plan was to get married, and enjoy childless matrimony....didn't quite work out.

I found myself living alone, needing to work on myself (which I did!) I made peace with my choices and decided it was time to start fresh, and embark into the dating world!

Any ladies out there who are doing it currently or have in the past know its INSANE now a days to date. I have no idea what happened to meeting someone at a bar, in a coffee shop, or just naturally in your everyday life but it seems to have disappeared. Online dating took me on quite a few adventures, including a man who asked me to meet him at a warehouse(insert american psycho joke here) but after a lot of duds, and a few unsettling photos, I got one!

This is where our fun begins readers, one date later and i'm faced with the hard line that I might fall for a man who has children bum bum bum....